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Be inspired by Foster Mother Mdm Lynette Chiu!
Ray and I have always wanted to help children.
In the early 1990s, before we were married, we used to volunteer at Club Rainbow, an organization aimed to bring cheer to seriously or terminally ill children. We volunteered as befrienders at camps or helped to do balloon sculpting at tea events. These sessions were ad-hoc and we enjoyed contributing towards them, but we wanted to do more.
After we got married, I tutored at a Children’s Home. I went down twice a week to teach and on a few weekends, Ray and I even took the kids for outings. The time at the Children’s Home was an eye opener as I didn’t realise that there were so many children in need of care. It was very fulfilling and allowed us to volunteer on a regular basis. Yet once again, Ray and I felt we wanted to do more than that.
In 2006, we made a decision to open up our homes and provide a safe and nurturing environment to children who have been abused, neglected or abandoned. When our son was a year old, we took in our first foster child.
11 years later, and we are currently looking after our 5th foster child.
People ask how we do it, and the answer is that we just do.
We treat each child that comes into our home as ours. We love them, we teach them, we entertain them, we keep them safe and healthy, and when it is time for them to go, we say good bye. It is hard to see a cherished child leave, but we are always thankful for the opportunity to have loved them.
People ask why we do it, and the answer is because we can.
We have an extra room in our home for any child who needs a safe place. We live simply so we have time and energy and resources to foster children. We do this because we believe when we bring a child into our home, we are opening their eyes to another way of living. These children are often taken from trying circumstances and unless they are shown a different lifestyle, they may grow up mirroring the difficult lives that they see around them.
People ask how long we want to carry on doing it, and the answer is as long as we are able to.
There are still many children who need secure and stable environments to grow up in and one day, we hope to have more than one extra room to care for these children. We still want to do more.
The decision to become a foster a parent has been a life changing one.
Before we embarked on this journey, there were countless questions and doubts running through our minds:
However, in the end, we realised that although all these questions were important and valid, it was impossible to answer all of them. The only question that needed to be asked was of ourselves: Were we ready to commit to a child and see him/ her through a difficult time of her life?
With every child that we fostered, the questions that came with them changed. Each child came with different circumstances and challenges that we could neither predict nor control. However, through commitment to the children, we were able to walk with them as they went through a time of their life where all they really needed was someone to be by their side.
Like anything worth doing, fostering has its share of sacrifices and compromises, but it has been one of the most enriching and meaningful experiences of our lives. We have never regretted the decision to become foster parents.
Join us to be a foster parent!